Alex & David Reed
Tuesday 16th Dec 2021
23rd March 2022
Tuesday 16th Dec 2021
When Alex and David Reed began looking for the ideal place to celebrate their wedding; it became apparent that they’d need to look further afield than their home turf in Lancashire. They quickly realised that they were looking for something timeless; but with a quirky twist. With a strong affinity to the North East (Alex studied in Newcastle for 4 years and they both love the area), they discovered Ellingham Hall and the rest is history…
Having been legally married in October 2020 (after 13 years of being together) the couple were keen to celebrate with their friends and family. Their legal marriage had taken place at the Queen’s Chapel of the Savoy in London as a nod to Alex’s late father who was appointed an MVO (Member of the Royal Victorian Order) in 1990 for his services to the Queen. This honour meant that Alex and David were entitled to marry at the chapel; however due to the Covid pandemic, they were only able to celebrate with 15 people.
Alex explained that “whilst the legal marriage was incredibly special, we really missed having all of our loved ones there – so we knew that we wanted to have a proper celebration.”
The couple, who live in Lytham St. Annes, had originally planned to have their legal marriage and celebration within six weeks of each other; however, Covid had other plans. With their celebration at Ellingham Hall postponed from December 2020 until December 2021, like so many other couples, they had to wait a little longer to celebrate with their nearest and dearest!
After looking around a few venues in Lancashire that were very traditional; we quickly knew that we were looking for something that had the wow factor. We were quite picky in the sense that we wanted a venue that was classic, but with some quirky character. We visited Ellingham Hall on one of its open days and we were immediately blown away by the venue. The building itself is just stunning – and teamed with the fact that it offers exclusivity for two nights (which is uncommon); we knew it was perfect. We also loved the fact that the majority of guests were able to stay on site in the hall itself and in the cottages on-site.
When looking for my wedding dress, I didn’t set out with the intention to wear black. In fact, it was quite the opposite. Black is my favourite colour – so the novelty of looking for a white dress was quite exciting. When I arrived at the wedding dress shop (The Ivory Dressing Room) with my mum and Maid of Honour, we immediately saw the black dress hanging up. It was suggested that I try it on as a joke, but when I came out of the fitting room to see my mum starting to tear up; it became less of a joke and more of an actual contender. I did try on a few white dresses that were more traditional; however, nothing felt as ‘me’ as the black wedding dress. With a bit of moral support, I decided to take the plunge and go for something different. It was the very first shop I visited and the very first dress that I tried on – so it was meant to be!
It definitely had the shock factor! I don’t think anyone was expecting a black wedding dress – despite a little note on our invitations that tried to discourage the ladies from wearing black. It seemed to go down well though – and it really fitted so well with our black tie/winter glam dress code.
It was all amazing! The best moment was arriving at Ellingham Hall knowing it was going ahead because we had to postpone it 18 months earlier due to the Covid restrictions. It was only meant to be six weeks apart from the legal wedding in London! But I would say that without Ellingham Hall, the day wouldn’t have been what it was. David only wanted a small wedding but after the ceremony, where a mutual friend of ours acted as celebrant, he immediately said it was amazing.
The staff at Ellingham Hall are incredible and we can’t praise the team enough – they were absolutely amazing. Some venues can feel like a wedding factory with tight turnarounds and the feeling of it being one in, one out – but we certainly didn’t have that experience at Ellingham. If we could do it all again, we definitely would. It makes us feel sad that we probably won’t ever return to Ellingham for another wedding – but we’re already lining up a trip to stay in one of their gorgeous cottages.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. You can have a set vision of what you want, but even if something doesn’t quite go to plan, you’re so in the moment that you won’t even notice it. Just try to focus on the things that really matter – your day will be amazing no matter what!
Esme Whiteside Photography – https://www.esmewhitesidephotography.co.uk
New Venture Wedding Films – https://www.newventureweddingfilms.com
The Ivory Dressing Room (dress by Pronovias) – https://theivorydressingroom.co.uk
Lisa Jones Hair And Make Up – https://lisajoneshairandmakeup.co.uk
The Whole Sch-Bang Venue Styling – https://www.thewholeschbang.co.uk
The Lytham Cake Company – @thelythamcakecompany
Moss Bros Suits – https://www.moss.co.uk
Bridesmaid Dresses TFNC – https://www.tfnclondon.com
Celebrant – George Jolliffe (friend)
AMV Agency (Livewire Band) – https://amvlivemusic.com/artists/livewire
‘Debbie, I just wanted to thank you so so much for everything you did in the run up and on the wedding day. It really does fly over doesn’t it! All our guests were really impressed with the food, especially all our veggies or guests with dietary requests. They all said the veggie’s are usually forgotten about or not given as good of an option, but they really felt included and looked after both days. The non-alcohol drinking guests really appreciated this option too! My mum wanted to thank you so much for the wedding morning as well, helping her out with the balancing act of registrar and mother of the bride – she did amazing! I also wanted to thank Charlotte for her amazing organization and commitment the night before and on the wedding day. She did an amazing job, just knew what needed doing, suggested better ways of doing things and just put me at ease. Ruth too- she was super helpful, especially the night before the wedding when I still wasn’t quite with it/stressed. I really wish Ellingham all the best for the future – it’s changed quite a lot since we originally booked, all for the better and we had an amazing day. The outdoor spaces are amazing – our guests loved the fire pit and being able to have the drinks reception outside was perfect.’
Alexia Papaioannou & Chris Muter, 25th May 2022
‘Team Ellingham, thank you so much for everything you did for us. You honestly made the whole weekend as stress free as possible, leaving us to enjoy ourselves and be in the moment. It was the perfect weekend and we are so pleased we picked Ellingham Hall. The most amazing venue and wonderful team.’
Suzanne & Stephen Harris, 23rd April 2022
‘I went through our wedding photos properly for the first time tonight and wanted to share some with you! The Hall looks so amazing in them. We had the best weekend and felt really looked after from the start. The grounds of the Hall are so beautiful and despite the looming storm, we managed to get a perfect day.’
Rebecca & Jonny Roxburgh, 19th February 2022
‘Thank you so much to you all for the purely amazing experience you created for us on our wedding day. From the initial meeting to the departure, everyone we encountered was friendly, knowledgeable, and so welcoming. The planning was made to feel easy as you all had such a relaxing ‘it’s all under control’ manner, that put us at ease and took the stress out of the process. When we arrived the venue was spotless, the rooms excellent and the food fantastic. We would like to pay compliments to Ruth and Alex who were both excellent, they were so friendly, and Alex in particular, really engaged with us and our guests. The wedding day was seamless, far better than we expected it could be, Thank you so much for the last minute confetti solution too, please let us know if we need to pay you for this! We had a wonderful experience and would recommend the venue to anyone, it was amazing. Thank you for such a great wedding.’
Catherine & Mike Smith, 12th April 2022
‘Ben and I just wanted to say the biggest thank you to you all for making our wedding day so special. We genuinely had the best most magical day of our whole lives in the most beautiful setting. So many guests commented on the staff and how lovely you all were, but that at the same time it was like we had Ellingham to ourselves. Debbie you were amazing and the day ran so smoothly down to your fantastic planning. I especially appreciate you keeping me calm before walking down the aisle, I was so nervous but I actually think it was the highlight of the day. Thank you so much Debbie, you are amazing at your job! We also want to say a huge thank you to Charlotte. She made us feel so comfortable and at ease, it really was like having another friend at our wedding. Charlotte really made our day even more special and was outstanding throughout. Thank you all again, we will never forget our wedding day at Ellingham Hall and have the most beautiful memories which we will cherish forever.’
Lucy & Ben Harrison, 2nd August 2022
‘The staff at Ellingham Hall were so supportive throughout the entire nightmare of the pandemic. We had three dates in total and maintained total enthusiasm and support throughout. On the day itself, everything ran so smoothly, the staff were always one step ahead with everything and made our wedding absolutely perfect! The venue, the décor, the food, the service from staff… we couldn’t fault a single thing.’
Ian Ward & James Steward, 18th November 2021